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Cruel to be Kind


 Today is World Kindness Day.

One of those days that has me rolling me eyes so hard, I risk having to explain to my ophthalmology consultant exactly how I lost the remaining 45% of my sight in under an hour.

Of course you shouldn't just go around being an arsehole to people for the sake of it, of course a bit of small talk can oil a lot of wheels, and everyone's over edge lords and their "I don't care about your feelings!" shtick, but...

Kindness doesn't help anyone.

Kindness is telling someone, for 16+ years, that their drawings and paintings are amazing, and then leaving them to deal with the fall out of discovering they can't turn their passion for art into a career on their own when the market goes "That's sh*t - I wouldn't give you a spare fart for it, mate."

Kindness is telling someone that they "just need to find their tribe", when what they actually need to do is learn to communicate in styles that aren't their personal preference, so that they can dialogue effectively with others, who communicate differently to them.

Kindness is soothingly saying that "we can't all be good at everything", rather than suggesting ways someone could improve.

Sometimes, the thing you least want to hear is the thing that will help you the most.

Are you ready to hear the things that will move you forward?

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